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Sexuality is part of everyday life. What are you doing to educate yourself? You may not be as safe as you think.

The truth is that sex outside of marriage has serious risks besides pregnancy...

  • 1 out of 4 sexually active teenagers will get a sexually transmitted infection
  • Each year more than 15 million Americans get infected from oral sex and the majority are under 25 years old
  • Your partner may not know that he/she has an STD (sexually transmitted disease)... 80% of those infected do not know their condition
  • Every year nearly 9 million people under the age of 25 get a new STI (sexually transmitted infection)*
  • Estimated nearly 3 million new cases of chlamydia reported annually **

You are the person who decides whether to expose yourself to sexually transmitted infections (STI). Can you tell if your partner has an STI? How can you be sure?

How do you know if a condom will keep you safe? Does a condom mean SAFE sex of does a condom just make sex safe... er? The Centers For Disease Control found condoms to be only partially effective. Is it worth the risk?

What are the risks? Getting an STD can mean embarrassment, infertility, cancer, liver damage, blindness, and even death. But STDs are treatable right? They may be treatable but not all are curable. What if you don't have any symptoms so you don't get tested... the damage may occur without you even knowing it.

What about the emotional risks? When you give the most precious and intimate part of your body to someone who isn't serious about the relationship enough to be married, you can find yourself alone and with a broken heart. Anyone who really cares will be willing to wait and not push sexual activity.

Discover all you can about these issues before you make the decision to begin or continue sexual activity. It's a great thing to learn more about a topic before it becomes a part of your life. In times of crisis, it's hard to think straight so it may be time to think about different choices now to protect your future.

If you have been sexually active, please get tested for STDs. Even if you used a condom and your partner told you that they don't have an STD. Then consider secondary virginity and choose to wait until marriage.

Here are just some of the benefits of making this informed choice to wait for marriage for sex:

  • Abstinence is the only 100% effective guarantee that you won't get pregnant
  • You won't get a sexually transmitted infection (abstinence includes no oral sex)
  • You will be spared the heartache and pain that sex often brings to an unmarried person

Think you might have an STD?  Take this quiz.
While we don't perform STD testing at Haven Pregnancy Services, we have a list of referrals for STD testing sites.

Choice is freedom - choosing to wait for sexual activity until marriage is the healthiest choice and YOU'RE WORTH IT!


* ref: Weinstock H, Berman S, Cates W Jr. Sexually transmitted diseases among American youth: incidence and prevalence estimates, 2000. Perspect Sex Reprod Health; 2004;36(1):6-10.

** ref: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for HIV, STD and TB Prevention. July 20, 2001

The info on this page is intended for general educational purposes and is not intended to be relied upon as a substitute for professional medical advice.


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